School Mornings have a Long Lasting Impact

Last week, we looked at the 5 Top Tips for making school mornings amazing!

Trust they were useful.

And what if… it was about so much more than that?!

Working with adults as a Leadership Facilitator helping business owners create high-performing teams, there are some surprising commonalities.

And guess what?

It all starts in the formative years. The early and very important years, when kids develop the crucial life skills that will be either helping or hindering them later in life.

Now here’s the thing, children will absolutely have innate personality. That means they’re born that way. Certain qualities & tendencies that shape and influence who they are.

Yet it doesn’t define them, neither is it ever an excuse for who they are now or who they can be or become.

They’ll also be very shaped by their environment, influenced by what’s important to parents, empowered by beliefs that come from parents, carers, peers, teachers, coaches etc.

In their school and working life in the future, they will absolutely need to know and develop skills around how to:

– Think for themselves
– Follow a routine
– Be organised
– Prioritise their time
– Understand what’s important
– Care for themselves
– Manage their belongings
– Ask for help
– Take feedback
– Handle overwhelm and pressure
– Multi-task

So … it matters now, that you are teaching and modelling for your child, how to have an effective and productive morning experience.

It matters that you encourage them to think for themselves, understand what comes next in their morning routine, not just ‘do’ as they’re told to (or yelled at!?)

It’s crucial that they are encouraged for initiative, not empowered to be complacent.

And boy do I know…. some days it absolutely tests your metal. (And sends you mental!)

Yes, sometimes, it is simply easier and faster to do it for them.

I get that….. but fast forward 5, 10 and years.

Who is going to “still” be doing it all for them then?
And if it is not you, it will be someone else in their ‘environment’ at work or home.

High-performing teams are that because they have team-work, initiative and self-awareness. They understand their strengths and where the gaps are they need to work on or support each other with. They have role descriptions and systems to help the entire team. Not 1 person attempting to do it all or be all things to everyone.

So if by chance you’ve taken on that role of doing it all…
And maybe, because it is quicker and simpler to do it, rather than stand your ground and make the time to teach them what they need to know and do now…
Then please STOP.

Stop and think about how much it matters NOW and for LATER.

Breath and remember, it matters a lot.

They have the capability and are probably way more competent that you’ve given them credit for yet.
And perhaps if you’re already created some patterns of behaviour with-in the family unit that aren’t ideal… they can be changed.

Tweak and improve. It’s time for EVERYONE to make some small changes, that will help everyone kick start the amazing mornings.

This could be the line in the sand moment…?

Genevieve & The rest of the Matthews Family xx