What do when your child isn’t bounding out of bed?

What to do with a Morgan Muffel?
 
As school has kicked back in, how many of you had to deal with a Morganmuffel? This was my favourite word, when I started learning German many years ago. It describes someone who is in a bad mood and doesn’t want to get out of bed.
 
Let’s be honest, we know how the kids feel. It would be awesome to roll over, go back to sleep or at least keep the school holiday feeling continuing. However, as much as I love the school holidays, I do also love the routine of term time. What about you?
 
Here are a few quick tips, if you had to deal with a Morganmuffle this morning, who really didn’t want to get out of bed and get back into the routine.
1) Acknowledge how they’re feeling
 
You know how much you hate it, if someone discredits or puts down or ignores how you’re feeling (even when you haven’t explained it, and we expect others to mind-read 😉 so make sure you ‘get’ how your little person/people are feeling too. Be empathetic.
 
2) The show must go on
 
It must, however kick off with getting them reconnected to what they love doing first. Henry said eating this morning….!! So he started with his breakfast. Well breakie was second to snuggles. We started the day with snuggles and a wee chat. He is not really a morning person generally speaking let alone on the first day of term. So we had 5 minutes under the covers and snuggled. Admittedly, I was already well up, been for a very early walk and in my gym gear so I went back under the covers, because I know what snuggles mean to him. He loves them. So make sure you meet their need for love and connection in whatever way they enjoy the most. Because they’ll feel re-energised, loved and understood. If they love playing or drawing, then give them that time. Short and sweet.
 
3) Flick the Switch
 
Maybe by the end of last term you had become the Nagging Nancy… always harping on about have you cleaned your teeth, have you made your bed, have you….. nagging about every step of the routine. This term it is time to flick the switch and do it VERY differently. Your child needs to be responsible for their own routine. For each step of the way. There is a beginning and an end to the routine with a certain amount of time available, so make sure you have this organised and somewhat planned and structured (with them in charge)
 
I do insist on about them being in charge, because regardless of whether you’re dealing with a 6 or 16 year old, they have to learn responsibility, routine and to think for themselves.
 
If we’re always thinking for them, telling them what to do…. then guess what, they’ll probably either stop bothering to think or never learn the muscle. And you’ll end up with a young adult with this problem…. and it happens.
 
So, ease back into Term 3 with this in mind. And have a cracking week ahead.
 
P.S Here’s the link to our School’s Coming Routine Kit, if you’d like some help with our pre-made & ready to roll morning routine. Read our book together, use the routine poster or design your own morning routine with our School’s Coming Routine Cards.